Valentine’s Day is often considered one of the most hated holidays, but for me—whether I am in a relationship or not—it has always been my favorite. This day of love does not deserve the hate it receives. If Cupid has not struck you with one of his arrows, I promise there is still hope for you to fall in love with the holiday.

Each year when February comes around, people tend to have one of two reactions; those in relationships eagerly anticipate the romantic day, and those who historically loathe the holiday brace for a day filled with corny gifts and love.

However, I believe there is a third approach to Valentine’s Day. As someone whose love languages are gift-giving and words of affirmation, I cannot think of a better opportunity to express my love and appreciation—not only for my significant other but also for my friends and family.

There are no rules stating that Valentine’s Day needs to be romantic. Personally, I put more effort into ensuring all my friends know just how loved they are. Everyone deserves to feel special on a day that is practically made for positivity and warm, fuzzy feelings.

My love for the holiday started where most fond memories are made—elementary school. I am sure many share my experience with the Valentine “drop boxes” we were all asked to make in anticipation of class celebrations, where we could bring a treat or a Valentine to share with the entire class.

Mind you, this was not something we got to do for other holidays like Halloween. For me, this was just another reason why Valentine’s Day was always my favorite. My elementary school self was tickled pink to bring home kind notes and treats. More importantly, I was excited to share my trinkets and handmade Valentines with my classmates—even those I wasn’t very close with.

I often ask myself, why did we stop? When did this holiday turn into the “My partner loves me most” show? I think college students and adults need to view the day as an opportunity to show love to their peers.

Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to bring joy, and I believe that form of joy is up to you. Rather than spending the day resentful or sad, ask a friend to do something fun, or spend time creating Valentines to bring joy to others.

Another option that is often overlooked is spending the day doing something you love—something that will bring you joy.

I have always been fond of everything related to Valentine’s Day, so my love for the holiday was no surprise. Crafting, corny love movies, and having an excuse to be overly gushy to those I love are things I look forward to all year.

I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea; however, I find it hard to believe that a person could be completely without love—whether it’s love for a partner, a friend, a passion, or even food. My challenge for those who hate the holiday is to try to find joy in it.

Most importantly, stop spreading your negativity to those who love the holiday. I am sure your elementary school self would ask you: “Why spread hate when you could just eat a Fun Dip packet?”