I have never been so single in my entire life. I have never had a threesome and I will go ahead and keep it that way.
Everyone has different views and opinions as to whether or not he/she would have a threesome, given a situation and circumstance. Generally, I am open to trying new things and testing the waters. However, I have my limitations and won’t be diving into a threesome any time soon.
Riding the tricycle is embraced in sexual activity today—especially in magazines and movies. When reality sets in, I wonder… are threesomes really as smooth sailing and clean as they’re talked up to be?
The Date Report released an article entitled “Good News, Threesomes are on the Rise,” Dec. 3, 2013. More than 5,000 interviews of individuals between the age of 18 and 39 were conducted in Hong Kong, London, Moscow, New York and Sao Paulo to see how many individuals have had threesomes.
“Among the findings was that one out of five, or 20 percent, of men and women have had a threesome,” the article stated. “In 2004’s ABC American Sex Survey, just 14 percent of women and men reported having a threesome.
In a 2010 survey conducted by Cosmopolitan and AskMen of more than 100,000 men and women, it was found less than 10 percent of women confirmed they had a threesome.
No one has the same hormones and sexual desires, so I can’t imagine it being easy for each person to “climax” at the exact same time.
Sometimes it’s difficult experiencing new things with one other person. Adding one more to the mix wouldn’t be a walk in the park. I’d rather not work harder in bed than anywhere else.
A threesome would take a well-functioning thinking cap, multitasking abilities and creativity to accommodate two other genitalia. Three is too many for me; I’ll take a pass on doing math in bed.
I would not be okay with sharing a man with another women nor could I be shared by two men. Don’t get me wrong, sharing is a GREAT thing. Just not in bed.
Sexual experimentation comes up on everyone’s radar at some point. Since the topic of having a threesome, or “riding the tricycle” as my friends have so delicately phrased it, has surfaced, I’ll try to give my thoughts on the subject.
It’s a polarizing issue. Sexual experimentation has never been dinner-table conversation. In our progressive society, however, a lot of people are starting to say, “if it feels good, why not?”
Social convention isn’t always so kind to the idea of getting sexually intimate with more than one partner at a time.
The Kinsey Institute, a leading source for the study of human sexuality, sees this as a primary reason so much bad data is collected and used to map out human sexuality. Kate Hakala, a blogger for The Date Report, addresses this.
“People will continue to grossly underreport a sexual encounter if they find it at all fetishistic or marginal,” says Hakala.
I admit that like many men, as presented in the statistics Clair cites for her half of this piece, a threesome is something I’ve thought about. However those thoughts have always been in the context of no-strings-attached fun-having. It’s intriguing, even thrilling, something that perhaps falls on the line of what’s taboo.
If there was no jealousy factoring in, no guilt, just animalistic attraction and lust, experimenting with the number three might be a good time. But can we all meet these requirements? Of course not.
The conditions I see as being necessary for a threesome include the following: lack of romantic attachment, strong physical attraction and comfort with one’s body and sexuality. The lack of romantic attachment is where you can count me out.
As for addressing the question on a personal level: to attempt a threesome you are opening up your relationship to outside influence. Is there really any room for a third party in an intimate, committed relationship? I don’t think so.
For the hook-ups, the booty calls, the one-night stands: go for it. I have my reservations, and they aren’t for a swinger’s club.
